Rants : The Pride Rants

Four years worth of annual "gay pride" rants from Planet SOMA:

13 June 1997

Break out the tank tops, the rainbow flags, the freedom rings, the pecs, and the drugs. Gay Day is coming to San Francisco. Market Street will be magically converted into a giant disco. This is the weekend every gay commercial institution in the city lives for. There will be dance clubs running pretty much twenty-four hours a day, gay pride massage specials, and attractive four-color flyers all over town showing the buff disco boys and rainbow colors (that's ink...not skin...) which are the absolute definition of "Gay San Francisco".

Big fuckin' deal.

OK...I'll admit that Pride Weekend is no more or less commercialized than any other major urban street fair. I can get past the fact that two of the biggest sponsors are breweries and a third is a distillery (although an email correspondent quips "don't fags ever buy GROCERIES?"). I can ignore the bars and businesses along the parade route which suddenly sprout heretofore unseen rainbow flags for the weekend. They're seizing an opportunity to make a quick buck, whic not a bad thing in itself.

I'm not even worried about the "freak show" the media will portray. Frankly, they usually showcase a level of humor and diversity of thought which is often sadly underplayed in the actual monotony of the parade. Contrary to popular belief, the parade is neither a celebration of perversion nor a demonstration of strength and diversity. It's not really anything but a long and usually boring procession of bar floats, politicians, and "people with labels".

So what is this "pride" thing anyway? I know it's an unpopular notion, but is one's sexual orientation anything to be proud of, per se? Granted, it's nothing to be ashamed of, either. Nor to be hidden. But does "being gay" automatically confer a sense of community on those to whom it happens? I don't think so. Frankly, I find that I have very little in common with my "community"; maybe I missed the ceremony...

Yes, it is true that gay people are discriminated against every day and in many ways. Equal rights legislation and a change in prejudiced attitudes are absolutely necessary. But, contrary to the "groupthink" inherent to the SF parade, gay white men are not the most oppressed group on the face of the planet. Especially not in San Francisco. And let's face it: Pride Weekend here (and in New York and Los Angeles) is largely about professional gay white men.

Perhaps in some smaller cities and towns, there's some validity to the notion of a gay parade to promote a sense of visibility and community. But in San Francisco, the whole event is about throwing a big party and showing off how beautiful and buff and out and gay we all are. And making a buck.

I'm in favor of partying, although Pride Weekend doesn't provide a lot of opportunities which are to my liking. I'm usually in favor of making a buck too. But let's not delude ourselves into thinking that this thing has anything much to do with "community".

So celebrate on...just make sure you know WHAT you're celebrating.

19 June 1998

It's almost that time of year again. San Francisco's Lesbian - Gay - Transgender - Bisexual - Questioning - Curious - Insert - Appropriate - Label - Here Weekend. Time to start making plans for the big weekend. So far, the one viable suggestion I've received has been from my friend Sarah; she thought it might be a good day to go thrift store hopping in Stockton. Sounds like a winner to me. Beats last year when I cleaned the bathroom...

I know...the parade is tempting. Nothing like four (five?) hours of standing in the hot sun watching a bunch of groups with signs declaring their narrowly-defined labels drone past, with the occasional bar float blaring the latest techodiscohouse drivel to break the monotony. I only WISH the parade were as much fun as the 700 Club portrays it...

And nothing like fighting your way into a crowded bar and waiting a half-hour to buy a beer behind some drunk disco bunny who's ordering seven DIFFERENT cocktails of varying colors and textures for his entourage, none of whom remembers what they wanted and all of whom must stand in the way for fifteen MORE minutes trying to figure it out...

The Saturday night before the parade is a special treat. The city becomes one huge circuit party, with rainbow-clad muscle boys in various stages of chemical disrepair all heaving and grinding to the happnin' rhythms of Axel K or Simon Q or whoever. It's great. Really...

When I was a young curmudgeon back in North Carolina, I used to love going to the Pride parades. It was all about visibility and making a statement of political and social power.

Of course, pride is about making a statement here too. And the statement is thus: fags have money. If you sponsor our parade, we will buy your brand of liquor or beer. If you set up a booth full of insipid T-shirts with slogans like "2Q2BSTR8", we will buy them. If you say you're working to fight AIDS, we will give you donations, no matter how much of this money goes to furnish your plush offices. If you have a petition about a "gay issue" (like, say, abolishing rent control), we will sign it without even reading it.

We are happy liberated gay men. We are secure in the knowlege that having a sexual orientation is an acceptable substitute to having a personality or an individual identity. We can think for ourselves, as long as the Advocate and Genre tell us it's OK. And as long as there's a snappy ad campaign (and a cool T-shirt) behind the recommended thought.

And we're PROUD dammit. PROUD of our sexual orientation (even though we had no say in its development). PROUD of our ability to get liquor companies to sponsor our parade. PROUD of our muscles and our disposable income and our wardrobes from Bloomie's. PROUD of the way we've made the Castro into a suburban shopping mall and kept those property values high. PROUD that we're the only ones allowed to make jokes about ourselves.

Of course, we're probably proud of some other things too, like our political gains, etc.. Some of us might even be embarrassed about a few things. Things like the way we elevate mediocrity to sacred status (witness "Ellen" and the Pet Shop Boys). Things like rampant commercialism, or a completely useless "gay press", or a culture which completely ignores its youth and "marginal" elements. Things like our severe substance abuse problem and our body fascism. But we'll be embarrassed quietly, so as to avoid disturbing the party.

Yup...I think I'll be embarrassed in Stockton. Or maybe even Fresno...

28 June 1999

For a few minutes this morning, I seriously thought about making signs and marching in the "people with labels" parade. Some possibilities I considered:

• Proud of Our Internalized Homophobia
• Acronym Power!
• Transgendered Lesbian Caregivers To Supportive Straight People Living With Bad Credit

I figured I could find at least one or two people to march with. Maybe it's best I skipped the whole thing, though. As originally planned, I didn't even go to the damned parade and I still managed to be annoyed by it on three separate occasions this weekend.

On Saturday, I was at the library doing a bit of research for an upcoming project. My cubbyhole was apparently directly above "Thumping Disco-schlock Stage #3". Concentration was not enhanced.

On Sunday, I had to change plans twice, the first casualty being some errands in the 'burbs requiring my car. I was afraid to leave the house, fearing I'd probably have to park in Oakland when I returned. Apparently, the parade route has changed and my neighborhood has become the unoffical parking lot for all the idiots who were too stupid to walk or take transit to the parade.

So I decided to walk back to the library instead. It was closed, due to the very self-same parade. I muttered and bitched as I walked through the outskirts of the "festivities" and the several hundred thousand proud gay men (all of whom seemed to have purchased identical white tank tops for the occasion) and set out on one of my long walks instead.

All in all, not a bad day. My hike took me through the Tenderloin, the Western Addition, the Haight, and the Mission. I took great pictures. I remembered my sunblock this time. I even sweated a little. And I only got panhandled six times in four-plus hours.

16 June 2000

I'd like to announce the first annual San Francisco Brunette Chestnut Auburn Dirty Blond and Multi-hued Pride Festival. Members of the BCADBMH community from around the country will be participating to celebrate our pride in our pigmentation and our glorious brunette culture.

Several brunette bands (chosen for their hair color rather than their talent, of course) will be playing at the center stage. You can buy "I'm not a brunette but my boyfriend is" T-shirts along with miniature brunette pride flags just across the street in the Marketplace.

We expect a turnout of several thousand of our BCADBMH brothers and sisters, not to mention a few hundred supportive blondes and redheads. We anticipate a few protestors from the Ex-Brunette Ministries armed with Clairol, peroxide, and the like, but our security forces will keep them at bay.

The festival aims to be inclusive. There will be marchers from many individuals and groups who define themselves solely in terms of their hair color. Participants will include groups such as the PBBEG (Pacific Bell Brunette Employees Guild, PFAB (Parents and Friends of All Brunettes), QOHC (Questioning Our Hair Color) and the LGHBL (League of Gray-haired Brunette Lovers). Floats from several of San Francisco's BCADBMH bars and nightclubs will also be featured.

So come on out. Celebrate your hair color and the fabulous music, art, and fashion which naturally spring from this inborn characterisitc. Show your stuff: hats are allowed, but not encouraged.

The festival is sponsored by Acronym Power, Inc.